On this page, I'll tell you the kind of results my clients have reported, and give you a sense of my guiding beliefs, my approach to working with clients, and tell you how I'm different than other somatic sex coaches and sex therapists.
What results do my clients get?
Sex is easier and more fun. They learn, and continually practice, good boundaries and negotiation so that they are having the kind of sex that they want, when they want.
They feel connected to their bodies, and feel at home there. Sexually and erotically, they know themselves in a deep and profound way. They give themselves permission to want what they want, and like what they like. They have the capacity to feel the fullness of their pleasure. My clients are often surprised at the increase in their creativity and the energy they feel in their lives.
They break out of destructive relationship patterns. They experience their relationships as supportive, loving and intimately connected, relationships that help them become more of who they are in the world. They learn the communication and intimacy skills that keep their relationships nurturing and alive, and know how to self-correct when things start to go wonky. They learn boundary skills, and how to deep themselves deeply safe. They learn to feel secure attachment.
They no longer feel sexually repressed or blocked. Their trauma and shame have been addressed and they have learned the skills to move through their triggers, and come home to themselves. Until these are addressed, it's like seeing the world through sunglasses all the time. It's only when you take them off, that you can see how everything is so much brighter and vibrant!
Sexually, they feel more confident. They are more connected to their desire, and are more aware of what they want. They feel freer to explore and express their full sexuality as it continues to expand and unfold across their lifetime. You can read some testimonials here!
What's My Approach?
Working with me is fun, invigorating and challenging. I work really hard for you, and I expect that you will work hard as well.
My approach is to meet you exactly where you are, and collaboratively develop goals and practices that will support you in who you wish to be sexually and erotically. Together, we will create a vision of the erotic self you want, and then take sequential steps to reach it. I pull from a wide variety of modalities, including Sexological Bodywork, Strozzi Somatic Coaching, Generative Somatics, and Somatic Experiencing as well as principles of Montessori education.
Above all, I'm curious and willing to use anything that works to get you the results you want. We'll laugh and cry together. You'll conduct erotic experiments and practice while we're apart. We'll navigate your resistance. We'll be with whatever comes up during your process. And together, we'll chart the course to the erotic life you want to live.
What makes me your sexual wellness professional?
What makes me unique as a Somatic Sex Therapist is my personal commitment to this work. I do this work because I have lived this work.
I am deeply committed to my own learning and intimacy. I am in a long-term committed partnership, one that my partner and I are constantly tending. I know both the work and the intimate rewards of conscious relationship! I frequently participate in sexuality trainings and classes. I see my own somatic coach weekly, and continually work to live fully in my body and inhabit my life. I am committed to radical honesty, and actually being in the therapeutic relationship with you. I don't pretend to 'know it all.'
What makes my work stand out is my commitment to being with what is. If you read more about me, you'll notice that radical analysis and activism are part of who I am. I'm kink positive, and there's probably nothing you can say that would shock me. I'm not judgmental, and hold deep compassion for the human experience.
I am selective about the clients I work with because I am so committed to you getting results: if I don't feel we are a good fit, I'll help you find someone else. I am a professional educator and know that sustainable change happens with practice over time. Therefore, after an initial session to assure our fit, I work with clients weekly for twelve weeks. I work with many clients for longer than that, but that is the initial container. You will see movement in that amount of time.
Now that you have a better idea about the results you can expect by working with me and my approach and philosophy of working with clients, next go to the Services page to learn about the specific services and programs I offer.
Legal Notice: With reference to California Penal Code section 647(b) and CALCRIM Nos. 1153 to 1155, the services discussed herein do not in any way include or relate to either(1) engagement in any lewd act for money or other consideration, or (2) solicitation, offer, or agreement to engage in any lewd act for money or other consideration. SB577 : Complementary healing arts such as Somatic Sex Therapy and Sexological Bodywork do not require licensing by the state of California. Emancipating Sexuality is the sex therapy practice of Sex Therapist Pavini Moray, located in San Francisco and Asheville NC. We offer sex therapy, sex coaching, to adult clients and couples seeking sexual healing, especially those in lesbian, gay, queer, and transgender communities. Beyond sex therapy, Pavini offers sex education workshops and trainings. Sex therapy can be helpful for resolving common sexual problems.Centrally located in San Francisco, we provide easily accessible sex therapy to South San Francisco, the east bay, Oakland and Marin. sitemap