Somatic Sex Therapy is a holistic healing approach that combines traditional sex therapy techniques with a somatic "body-based" approached, sometimes, but not always, involving hands-on work.
You live mostly in your head
You notice sexual blocks/ inhibitions
You have physical sexual issues like orgasms or libido
Orgasms are small and limited to your genital area
Sexual past prevents you enjoying sex
You're in a low-sex or no-sex relationship
You're in repeating destructive relationship patterns
Shame is a permanent resident
Your ability to feel is compromised; numbness
The sexual routine in your relationship is boring
No current info about sex, safety, consent, or STI's
Not sure how to initiate sex, or what to do
You may experience pelvic pain or discomfort
You feel uncomfortable talking about sex
You don't really know what you want, just not this.
You live fully in your body
You have easy access to your turn-on
Everything's working as it should physically
Your orgasms run a spectrum from good to amazing
You're in the present, experiencing your full sexuality
Great sex is happening on the regular
Your solid intimacy skills that connect you
You live a big, joyful shame-free life
You feel exquisite pleasure and sensation
Your sexual relationships are curious and exploratory
You have solid knowledge and know-how about sex
You feel sexually confident
You experience relaxed pleasure
You've got effective sexy communication skills
You know what you want, ask for it, and receive it!
If you did the self-assessment above, basically the results you can expect from Somatic Sex Therapy sessions are the descriptions on the "Erotic Freedom" side of the chart.
You know how to figure out what you want, and you give yourself permission to like what you like. You know how to say "yes" and "no" without apology. You spend your time living inside of your body, and have access to feeling a full range of pleasure and sensation.
"The somatic sex therapy work I have begun in such a holistic way with Pavini's guidance and support is deeply powerful. It is healing and transformative, starting at the cellular layer and spiraling through my body, my sex, my emotions, my brain, my actions and relationships -- all of me. In particular, I'm able to stay present during sex, and last week I asked my partner for something I'd been afraid to ask for. And she said yes! I am so grateful for the wonderful sex education, sex coaching and loving whole-hearted support Pavini has given me." ~ Mel G., San Francisco, CA